Transformative Communication is a concept that aims to create positive change in human development. To transform means to change from one state of being to another, and the implication is attaining a higher and better state of being. Our tool for that change is communication. The quality of our communication is reflected in the quality of our life. Communication happens on many levels and is not limited to what we call “talking”. Communication means literally to share oneself (lat. communicare), but also to transfer. This term carries immense significance in it.
We share through verbal language our feelings, thoughts and intention with other people. But also through our way of being and acting we communicate with the world, share who and what we are, what we think and assume about who and what we are. We practically transfer our worldview to our acting in the world. As a particular person responds to our words, so also the world responds to the language of our thoughts, actions and ways of being. Thus we come back to the statement, “The quality of our communication is the quality of our life”.
Important questions that always arise are, “Am I understood?” and “Have I understood?” Usually when we communicate, we aim to be understood but also to understand others. Herein lies the rub. More often than not, we might find ourselves in misunderstandings— not that the information was received incomplete, or had been wrongly interpreted. I talk about a lack of true connection to ourselves, others and the world around us. We, therefore might end up no longer understanding the world anymore.
The process of transformative communication it is about being conscious and fully awake in our communication with others. We emphasize the process of empathic listening (also called active listening), where we focus on being fully present with the other person mentally, emotionally and physically. If we are fully present we become conscious. If we are conscious, we can attain true understanding and act in full personal responsibility, without slipping into victim roles. The process of transformative communication teaches us how we are fully responsible for our life quality in all situations and how we can make an optimal contribution to our desired quality of life.
The concept of transformative communication is founded in part on the Bhagavad Gita. This ancient Vedic (Hindu) scripture teaches of the transcendental nature of our self or soul. It explains the laws of material nature and how the spiritual soul is associated with this nature. Yet, the soul exists independently from material nature, and can, therefore, stay aloof from its influences. Furthermore, the Bhagavad Gita gives us a theistic concept about the origin of the soul and the world. It teaches us how a harmonious existence between creature, creation and creator can be attained.
The concept of transformative communication is also founded on the knowledge and practices of modern psychology, psychotherapy and clinical social work. Here, models about cognitive laws, communication styles and skills for interaction are tailored to the individual. This includes shedding light on emotional and motivational aspects of human existence and making them tangible for transformation.
In our workshops, we teach the theoretical and practical basics of this process. In the Satvatove Seminars, facilitated by David B. Wolf Ph.D., this process is taught in its full extend and depth.