Our concept of transformative coaching is based on spiritual knowledge. In its views and practices it has a strong connection to the Bhagavad-gita, an ancient indian scripture. In this scripture for once the transcendence is explained, as well as the material nature in its different ways of functioning. The self (soul) is understood as a transcendental, spiritual being whose symptom is consciousness. In the embodied state of the self, its consciousness is covered by the three modes of nature, or gunas. The gunas generate different states of being which form our thinking, feeling, willing and acting. The three gunas are called sattva-guna, the mode of goodness, rajo-guna, the mode of passion, and tamo-guna, the mode of ignorance.
In the mode of ignorance, our consciousness is expressed in a passive and destructive way. When in communication we do not take part in the conversation, are somewhere else with our thoughts, and have difficulties to embark on others. We avoid addressing moving and controversial topics out of fear to experience painful parts in ourselves. In this consciousness we are very self-centered or self-absorbed, like to complain on something, see ourselves as victims of circumstances, are cynical, like to blame others, and avoid as much as possible to experience positive change. We rather let others decide for us and believe that what we think and want does not count. Also gross and insulting language, with the goal to hurt others and drag others down, is part of that consciousness.
In the mode of passion our consciousness is expressed in egocentric and dominant communication behavior. We want to call the shots, dominate, give advice, find solutions and want to be right. In the first place it is about what we want and think. In this consciousness we are very anxious to be productive, and if there is a problem, we go head over heels in finding solutions, making judgments and doing analyses. Good advice we have plenty and we think that talking is gold and silence is silver. We are confrontational, aggressive, and only limitedly able to take criticism. We think that only our point of view counts.
The states of passion and ignorance have in common that they lead to strong self-absorption, in the mode of passion aggressively, and in the mode of ignorance passively. It is always about us and what WE want, feel and think. In this way a taker attitude is developed. Usually we do not create healthy and conducive relationships in these modes since we are characterized by one-sidedness and egotism. We might even tend to devalue and reject relationships of different kinds. This is so because the element of sattva-guna is missing.
In the mode of goodness or sattva-guna, our consciousness is expressed in true empathy and awareness. We are empathic; means are able to fully embark on others, and to appreciate their points of view. At the same time we can also refer empathically to ourselves. We are able to suspend our own judgments and opinions, and to discuss objectively. Our language is characterized by conscious choice of words, honesty and assertiveness. Our attitude is that the point of view of others counts as much as our own, and we are able to set clear boundaries. In this consciousness we strive for agreement of our words and deeds.
The mode of goodness creates a giver attitude in which we recognize and appreciate the reality of others. This form of giving is at the same time a form of receiving. In such consciousness we create deep and lively relationships which are conducive for our personal and spiritual development. Therefore in our coaching we highlight the mode of goodness.